Honesty is an important aspect of our norms and values. Lying is defined as ‘intentionally say something that does not correspond to the truth’. Until the age of seven, children have difficulties separating fantasy from the truth. Additionally, they do not have an internal conscience yet. This means they do not yet have any feelings of guilt when lying. We as parents have to function as their ‘external conscience’, which means we have to teach them that lying is wrong.
From the age of seven, children know the moral codes of behavior: what is appropriate and accepted, and what is not?
Children often lie to avoid punishment, to meet expectations, or to meet their own needs. Other motives for lying are: feeling ashamed or wanting to impress other people
Set the right example by showing honesty. Encourage your child to be honest about everything and give compliments when he/she is.
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